Give him your left cheek, after all, how else will you throw a right cross?

“But I tell you not to resist an evildoer. On the contrary, whoever slaps you on the right cheek, turn the other to him as well.”
~Matthew 5:39, the Bible [ISV]


Turn the other cheek. That’s simple enough, if someone offends you or does something against you, don’t get mad. Instead offer them your other cheek or in other words. Just let it go. Now, I don’t see anything wrong with this. If someone says an unkind word, don’t sweat it, brush it off and move on. Chances are they are just jealous over you or mad at themselves and have to take it out on someone else. ‘Don’t sweat the small stuff’, as they’d say. How about the big stuff? What do you do when someone hurts you deeply, either physically, or mentally? If you were to follow Jesus’ example then you would do nothing. In fact, you would offer up yourself again. A great figure in American history would tend to agree with this holy man. Abraham Lincoln, in a Washington D.C. address said, “I have always found that mercy bears richer fruits than strict justice.”

Strict justice…Justice without the weight of consequence and circumstance. Upon first glance this may seem like the perfect answer. No matter who you are, no matter what happened, if you did ‘A’ then ‘B’ is going to be your punishment. Further inspection says that this black and white approach would be faulty. Take our court system; if you kill a man, then you are going to jail. Ah, wait, unless it was in self-defense. If you kill someone because the alternative is he would kill you, you are justified in your actions. Let’s take this a step further.

Mary is walking home from work one day, which is about 5 blocks away from her apartment. As she walks, she notices a man behind her, seemingly keeping pace with her, neither getting closer nor trailing farther behind. 2 blocks into her journey he makes his move. As they pass a dark alley, he grabs Mary, throws her onto an old mattress in the alley and begins to rip off her clothes. She pleas with him to stop, but it looks like she is going to be one more statistic for rape. Only Mary has a gun, a concealed weapon that she keeps in her purse that is lying beside her. Using all her strength, she pushes the man, knocking him back momentarily. She scrambles for her gun, he gets up and runs toward her just as. Bam. The man drops to the ground, blood oozing from his chest; he has been hit square in the heart. Its over, she killed him in self-defense. No charges. His family has a funeral. But what if she hadn’t had the gun?

If she hadn’t had the gun she would be traumatized and her assailant would be put on trial where he would be either let free to rape again, (yes, this is a proven trait that rapists are almost always serial), or he would get up to 10 years in jail. Mary’s life may never be the same. Now this is turning the other cheek. Not only has he ruined her life, but he may be walking around on the streets free to do this again. In this case it is important to follow Confucius’ advice and “recompense injury with justice, and recompense kindness with kindness.” Death may be hard on a rapist, but injustice is being committed when he is out of jail in 10 years or more likely 7 for “good” behavior.

I realize the aforementioned example is slightly extreme, but this is what we deal with. People who say ‘turn the other cheek’ cannot be thinking clearly. In various cases, the worst thing imaginable would be to do that. There are circumstances when action needs to be taken against the individuals, be they shoplifters, rapists, murderers or just bullies. To conclude this entry, I would like to quote from one of my personal favorite movies of all time. Called The Order, it stars the late Heath Ledger as Alex, a man who though a series of events becomes the absolver of sins, a way into heaven without going through the church. At the end of the movie, Alex is all alone, having just received these absolving powers, He utters these final lines.

“And now it is I. I have been blessed and cursed... for now I possess the keys to the kingdom of heaven. I will forgive those who deserve freedom. I will damn those who have damned themselves.”

S.T.

And I'll Take This Bullet In Hopes You May Prosper...

"Spock: The needs of the many... outweigh -
Kirk: The needs of the few.
Spock: Or the one. "
~Star Trek, The Wrath of Kahn

My father was a Star Trek junkie back in the day, and growing up we would watch the classic shows such as Star Trek and M.A.S.H. so it seems only fitting that one day I would be using a quote from the series. This quote is often shortened in this day and age to "The needs of the many outweigh the needs of the one". But I believe the few is important. If we look at these statements in essence it turns into a "put others first" scenario. But what happens when its one on one. Does the needs of your relative/friend/lover outweigh the needs of yourself. I'd like to think so.

"Self-Sacrifice is the real miracle out of which all the reported miracles grow."
~Ralph Waldo Emerson

Self-sacrifice. Sacrifice sounds like a harsh word, it conjures images of cults and virgins and the ultimate payment. This isn't self-sacrifice however. At least...not exactly. According to MWOD, self sacrifice is the sacrifice of oneself or one's interest for others or cause or ideal. That is some heavy thinking, giving up something in exchange for someones ability to prosper. It may not be your life that is the loss, but if you are self-sacrificing, chances are its something fairly substantial. Let's take an example. Dean and Eddie are best friends, they got each others back. Dean is friends with Julie. Dean likes Julie. Eddie starts meeting with Dean and Julie. Eddie finds himself starting to like Julie. Oh, but wait, so does Dean. One of two things can happen here. One, Eddie can go on the offensive and in essence fight against Dean for Julie's affection. His second option, and frankly, much less appealing, is he can suppress his feelings and force them to disappear. As hard as it is having one good friend like you, two would be killer. The real priority is the well-being of his friends. With him in the mix it only makes things harder. Eddie decides option two is best.

So in review, If he sacrifices here, he is effectively:
~Sacrificing his emotions
~Sacrificing a part of his mental well-being
~Sacrificing a potential relationship

Reading that, I'm pretty sure Eddie has more dedication to friends than this writer will ever have. But I also know that he has a very hard road ahead of him, and wish him the best of luck.

Because You'll Need It To Stay Alive.

S.T.

Friends Shift With the Sands of Time

"Someone That You Trust Is Just, Another Way To Die"
~Another Way To Die by Jack White and Alicia Keys

People have said that music is life and I believe it. Music not only can tell a story, but it can also teach you about this world we call ours. Our lives are made of relationships. Be they work, love, or friendship, we intertwine and connect with various people to create a delicate web. Friendships are the most delicate. People start as strangers, become acquaintances, then best friends. Sometimes life doesn't work like that, sometimes our friendships fail. It can be due to something one party said, or perhaps what they did. Either way, someone will get hurt. Maybe its an unintentional attack on their feelings or their pride. Most friendships get over this, and although they may never be to the way things once were, they will still be friends to a capacity. Oh, but then...then there are the special cases of trusting a friend, only to have them come out of their shell when something goes amiss. They turn so fast, and so hard on you, that before you know it they are now your sworn enemy. Perhaps the shift is more subtle and you just drift apart. They still seem harmless tho right? But sometimes you don't know why, and then sometimes you find out that they really were not who they were in the first place, and apparently you were backing the wrong pony the whole time.

Will you stand and right the wrong?

S.T.