And I'll Take This Bullet In Hopes You May Prosper...

"Spock: The needs of the many... outweigh -
Kirk: The needs of the few.
Spock: Or the one. "
~Star Trek, The Wrath of Kahn

My father was a Star Trek junkie back in the day, and growing up we would watch the classic shows such as Star Trek and M.A.S.H. so it seems only fitting that one day I would be using a quote from the series. This quote is often shortened in this day and age to "The needs of the many outweigh the needs of the one". But I believe the few is important. If we look at these statements in essence it turns into a "put others first" scenario. But what happens when its one on one. Does the needs of your relative/friend/lover outweigh the needs of yourself. I'd like to think so.

"Self-Sacrifice is the real miracle out of which all the reported miracles grow."
~Ralph Waldo Emerson

Self-sacrifice. Sacrifice sounds like a harsh word, it conjures images of cults and virgins and the ultimate payment. This isn't self-sacrifice however. At least...not exactly. According to MWOD, self sacrifice is the sacrifice of oneself or one's interest for others or cause or ideal. That is some heavy thinking, giving up something in exchange for someones ability to prosper. It may not be your life that is the loss, but if you are self-sacrificing, chances are its something fairly substantial. Let's take an example. Dean and Eddie are best friends, they got each others back. Dean is friends with Julie. Dean likes Julie. Eddie starts meeting with Dean and Julie. Eddie finds himself starting to like Julie. Oh, but wait, so does Dean. One of two things can happen here. One, Eddie can go on the offensive and in essence fight against Dean for Julie's affection. His second option, and frankly, much less appealing, is he can suppress his feelings and force them to disappear. As hard as it is having one good friend like you, two would be killer. The real priority is the well-being of his friends. With him in the mix it only makes things harder. Eddie decides option two is best.

So in review, If he sacrifices here, he is effectively:
~Sacrificing his emotions
~Sacrificing a part of his mental well-being
~Sacrificing a potential relationship

Reading that, I'm pretty sure Eddie has more dedication to friends than this writer will ever have. But I also know that he has a very hard road ahead of him, and wish him the best of luck.

Because You'll Need It To Stay Alive.

S.T.

Welcome One And All To The Show

Well, This is it, my new space. It's kinda cozy isn't it?
Anyways, I probably should answer some questions first.

Who Am I?
I'm just a kid. Noone special tho. male, early 20's, college, girls, work. You know, the usual suspects.

What Is This?
This...This is my life. Not in the normal "look at me, look at me!" sense. I hope it will be more in the "Here's where I went wrong" sense. Or maybe the always classic "Did you even think about this?" sense. Either way, I hope its an interesting read.

Okay, now onto the fun part.

Sir Francis Bacon once said, "If a man will begin with certainties, he shall end in doubts; but if he will be content to begin with doubts he shall end in certainties." Now, let me explain what I take from that. A few weekends ago, I had the ever pleasant experience of going out with a girl. I guess at this point you should know two things. One, I love quotes. Two, I also love sarcasm. Take that last statement for example. Yes, I had a very nice time, and thought she did too. But upon later words, I found out she did not. "It felt forced" she said. "I had a lot of fun, but it was just weird at times."

"I had a lot of fun, but it was just weird at times." Oh great, weird? WEIRD? Come on, what could she possibly mean by "weird"? Then it occurred to me...The way we were going, I came into the date expecting nothing short of a relationship. This gentlemen, is where I should make my point. never, EVER, go into a date expecting an outcome. If you do, you will surely shoot yourself in the foot. Que the Quote please! I started with certainties and now I'm sitting here listening to sappy music (Believe by Staind, don't get me wrong, great song, love the guitar work, but sappy) and wondering what will become of this situation. So I guess you could say, I started with certainty of the outcome, and now I'm typing and doubting everything about the situation. When, I guess according to Francis Bacon, if i would have just walked in with doubts, or an open mind, then i would have walked out with certainity, either "girlfriend" or "this wont work".

Touche Sir Bacon, Touche.

S.T.